i want to get the updates but can not get to site. i treid to install 32 bit IE and was told i can not do that. so now what?

If you've got 64bit Windows, you should already have 32bit IE installed and you can use that to get to windows update. You'll find it in the start menu (non-classic, the 32bit IE is the IE pinned to the top) and under the programs list. If you've removed it from there for some reason, you can find it in \Program Files (x86)\Internet Explorer\.