FYI... Wint2000 and up do *not* have that ability. That's strictly a Win9x function.
Trust me, you're wasting your time. Even in XP/2K3/Vist/Win7/(etc) you have to select the same thing. They are *not* DOS-based, so it won't happen. Period!
As for "Safe to turn off..." that's *stricltly* the diffrence between an ACPI-aware PC/OS and one that is not. That subject has already been answered and relates to the HAL (ACPI vs Standard PC). You're really barking up the wrong tree.
FYI, if you select "Shut Down", then DUH, down you go, even with Win9x (using ACPI)! I've already described it and given links. Shut Down is Shut Down. Restart is Restart. Pick one on the Pull-Down. It's there, whether you use it or not is up to you. I've already done this on my Win2K-Pro test bed. I'ts and NT OS, not a DOS-based OS. End of story.
As for changing the Bitmaps, that *may* be possible.
P.S. - I have several test beds (OS's) under VPC (on Server2K3) , so it's relatively easy to check stuff out.
edit - Install Win9x using ACPI (not APM) in the BIOS, with an ACPI-aware Win9x. See what happense when you select "Shut Down". - BOOM down you go, ther is *no* "It's now safe..." screen. Same as NT-style (all of them...).
EDIT2 - Here, let me help you out.
As stated, you will *not* get what you want because... NT-style! No CTRL-ALT-DEL at that screen for Reboot.
Alternatively, figure out how to roll-your-own of something *like* this -
Edited by submix8c, Yesterday, 05:29 PM.